So after a fairly emo­tional night (26 years of psy­cho­log­i­cal drama can make one emo­tion­ally exhausted every now and again) it turns out that, yeah, basi­cally I’ve been right all along (uhm, of course, I know me bet­ter than any­one else does), and my friends (and I think prob­a­bly my fam­ily too) do indeed have a totally wrong frame of ref­er­ence by which they view and under­stand me.

I guess its not really wrong for them to have an incor­rect frame of ref­er­ence either, because I’ve not really been help­ing any­one to truly know me. Yet it still causes prob­lems, because turns out I’m also right that peo­ple have been infer­ring some seri­ously wrong conclusions/issues/worries about me, and its all because they don’t have the right frame of ref­er­ence with which to view/understand me, and I’m appar­ently vague enough about every­thing, that its not some­thing any­one is likely to sim­ply infer.

So, where do I go from here? How can I con­vince peo­ple that I’m hon­estly ‘ok’ when they won’t really believe it until their frame of ref­er­ence for me changes?